I’m a mum to daughters, when I had my third, people thought I wanted a boy and that I was disappointed I didn’t have a boy. Well I can honestly say I wasn’t, and yes there will always be a tiny part of me that will wonder what it would have been like to have a son. But looking at my three girls together I wouldn’t change that for the world.
Feeling on being a mum to daughters
I wanted to write this blog to share my feelings as a mum to three daughters. When I was pregnant with my second and third baby I decided to have them because I wanted to extend my family. I didn’t have them to get a boy as ‘you get what you are given’ and I’m so grateful all 3 I conceived naturally and were healthy.
I don’t ever want my second or third daughters to ever think that having them was less special than my first daughter Holly. So the poem below is dedicated to my third precious daughter…
I loved you from the moment I found out I was having you. When I was told you were a girl, I was so happy, that is true.
Your tiny little nose, those big blue eyes and your hand that holds my finger so tightly. I feel lucky to have you, another daughter in my life I cherish so rightly.
You are unique and ready for the world to see, yes I finally have a daughter who looks like me!
You have 2 sisters who love you so much, there will be times you fall out and lose touch. As your mum I will make sure you all come back together, as being sisters is a special love you have to treasure.
Same Gender
Some parents I know are disappointed and that’s ok, those feelings can overwhelm a new mum. But for me I think having a baby is the most precious thing you can bring home. Does the ‘sex’ of it really matter? Some women out there struggle to conceive and grow a baby. Those women would love to be in your shoes right now, holding a newborn.
Personally I think deep down new mums are worried about what people will think. We live in a world of social media and our lives are placed on a platform. People’s comments can be hurtful and I think expectations on motherhood is really hard to keep up with.
Social Media
As I’ve said in my other bloggs, one being Happy 1st Birthday Millie, social media puts that ‘pressure’ on new mums, families and life as we know, even down to what decorations or gifts you get your child. Everything is posted on social media, to show how perfect life is, when in fact it’s not always the case. It’s easy to criticise especially when online (those keyboard warriors). Until you stop caring what people think then life will become more easier. Even I still struggle with this and continue to work on it.
So how many children do you have? Are they the same sex? It would be lovely to hear you feeling about this so please comment below and share your story 🙂
